Abuse is not a gender issue, and believe it or not there is abuse going on in faith filled homes today, and the majority of churches handle this issue incorrectly. You see the abusive person can be warm and loving one minute, and the next can rage out of control! I’m sure most of us have run across at least one person like this in our lifetime. Some people think that they can spot an abuser a mile away, but in most cases you really can’t. Why? Because people that are abusive have ways of sending you down the wrong path to get the attention OFF of them, and turn it in a totally different direction. Abusers have an historical pattern of doing this, so don’t think you can spot them, even the smartest and sharpest don’t see it at times.

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People that abuse also have good qualities like everyone else. They can at times have a great sense of humor, humility warmth, and an awesome person to be around. They don’t necessarily have to have this image of drugs and booze, or jobless bums that sit around mocking the world as they slur their words. They don’t fit into that perfect box that you read about when it comes to that cruel, intimidating, and vicious person! Studies reveal that this is why most partners seem to doubt the abuse to begin with! They almost hesitate saying too much, because they may actually think they are misjudging them in some way.

An abusive partner will railroad discussions, so that you don’t have time to think about what’s right and what’s wrong in their behavior. Check out these questions. Your mate might have behaved as though these things were okay, even though it’s obvious that they aren’t okay...